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Personality development

Posted by The Visitor மேல் செப்ரெம்பர் 16, 2008

இதைப் பார்த்ததும், ஏதோ பர்ஸனாலிடி டெவலப்பமன்ட் கோர்ஸைப் பத்தி எழுதறதா நினைச்சுக்காதீங்க. இது நாம் ஏன் இப்ப இந்த பர்ஸனாலிடியோட இருக்கோம்ங்கறதைப் பத்தி இருக்கிற சில தியறிகள் (theories).

Personality Development

Psychosexual development – Sigmund Freud – One of the earliest theories; என்னடா கதை விடறாரேனு தோனும்.

Psychosocial development – Erik Erikson – Appears to be more acceptable.

இதெல்லாம் conclusiveனு சொல்ல முடியாது, but தெரிஞ்சு வெச்சுக்கறதில தப்பில்லைனு நினைக்கிறேன். Could be useful to young parents in raising their children. எது எப்படியோ, நாம எப்படி வளர்த்தாலும், நம்ம குழந்தைங்க கிட்ட “என்னை நீங்க சரியை வளர்க்கலை” னு வாங்கிக் கட்டிக்கப்போறது என்னவோ உறுதி. சந்தேகம்னா லதா வைக்கேளுங்க. 🙂

Some time-pass: நீங்க என்ன Personality typeனு தெரிஞ்சுக்கனுமா?.

You can get more info on this test on the net. Here is the wiki page on Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) test.

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Fidelity

Posted by பிரேமலதா மேல் ஜூன் 1, 2007

It is very human. Men who claim they 100 percent faithful to their spouses are either lying or haven’t had the opportunity or are scared of being caught. And women who claim their men are 100 percent faithful are either lying or ignorant

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if the wife wants to be upto something, she will be. The fidelity of her husband will never be a factor in deciding whether she should succumb to the charms of another man. There might be other factors though — such as the fear of getting caught, or people talking about her, or simply excess love for the husband. But just because a man is loyal is no guarantee that the wife will return the favour.

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Those secure enough, meanwhile, have all the fun.

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Keeping to the left-most lane

Posted by The Visitor மேல் மே 28, 2007

இராமன் எப்பவும் ஏதாவது ஒரு புது கண்ணோட்டத்துல ஒரு விஷயத்தைப் பார்ப்பார். இந்த முறையும் என்னமோ புதுசாச் சொல்றார், ஆனா அது என்னனு எனக்குப் புரியல. காதல் வயப்பட்ட காரணமோ?

Mom said that arranged marriages are for people who want a change in their life and love marriages for people who dont wanna change much. Quite a debatable statement but personnally for me, quite an enlightening one. What mom said made a world of sense in my case.

கதம்ப மாலை யின் வாழ்த்துக்கள் 🙂

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Why do we marry?

Posted by The Visitor மேல் மே 25, 2007

என்ன கேள்வி இது ன்னு நீங்க கேக்கறது புரியுது.
Raman has his own perspective on the question, in his post – An Audience to Your Life.

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பாட்டி

Posted by பிரேமலதா மேல் மே 11, 2007

தன்னோட அம்மாவோட அம்மாவைப் பாட்டின்னு சொல்றாங்க இவங்க. சினிமாவில வர்ற பாட்டி மாதிரி இல்லை ஆனா இது என் பாட்டி-ன்னு அழகா சொல்றாங்க.

she is not exactly a filmy paati, she is a very good real one.

Paati was no romantic. She was a hard woman. She would never talk very much. And she spent most of her day cooking, cleaning and rapidly knitting or making crochet stuff. She used to be faintly obsessive about it even. And so crochet bits found its way up into our homes as curtains, door-mats, table-cloth, cushion covers, bed-sheets and even our clothes. When you are seventeen, and live in Delhi, crochet patchwork kurtis hardly seemed like hi-fashion.

அம்மாவோட அம்மாவை ஆச்சின்னு சொல்லுவோம் எங்க ஊர்ல. அப்பாவோட அம்மாதான் பாட்டி.

வழி: நேஹா

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Farewell, Mother

Posted by பிரேமலதா மேல் மே 10, 2007

Mom passed away peacefully about 2 hours ago. Her brain was too swollen and there was nothing to be done. We managed to transport her body back to our home before we pull the plug. I am sure she would want it this way.

  1. Dear Mommy
  2. Farewell, mother
  3. Mom’s wishes
  4. not meant to be a surprise
  5. end of mourning period

Can’t believe it has already been 49 days since mom went away… since I last spoke to mom… since I last heard her voice… since I last tasted her delicious cooking… since I last had a mother

பரிந்துரை: அனான்

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பழகப் பழகப் பாலும் புளிக்கும்

Posted by The Visitor மேல் மார்ச் 19, 2007

பழகப் பழகப் பாலும் புளிக்கும்? Familiarity breeds contempt.

Absence makes the heart grow fonder – does it? or is it, Out of sight, out of mind.

I dont know why morbid thoughts assail me (in the absence of the spouse) – என் மனம் ஒரு குரங்கு. Anyway, I googled “infidelity signs” and landed on the following: Beyond betrayal.
Warning signs of infidelity
ஒருத்தர் இந்த விஷ(ய)ங்களுக்கு தனி ப்லாகே வச்சிருக்கார் – வேற வேலை இல்லை போல – Truth, lying and cheating.

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Mother daughter relationship

Posted by பிரேமலதா மேல் மார்ச் 9, 2007

The mad momma is getting ready for her second child. She recalls some of her experiences from the previous delivery, the help she got from her mother and talks about mother-daughter relationship in this post

Her previous experience of having baby goes likes this:

And it brought back memories of my first day of nursing. I was rolled out of the OT. Everyone knows I had a bad experience with the cesarean, and then I was sat up in the bed immediately and told to feed the baby. No milk happened. ………….. Mother and mother-in-law decided to pinch and poke my breasts to get the milk started. I was already in agony because I was not being given painkillers. …………….

Now my pediatrician and OB this time tell me that the milk takes a few hours to get started. ……… Particularly if you have had a cesarean. ……….. For someone who has had a cesarean, the body doesn’t realise that the baby has been taken out, …….so the milk takes a while to get flowing. ………… By this time my dad had told all enquiring relatives that I had no milk for the child. And my mother had brought herbal medicine to start the milk. And suggestions were coming in from every direction with just about everyone having a go at my breasts.

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